I recently read this quote somewhere…
“When a flower doesn’t bloom, you fix the environment in which it grows, not the flower.”
…and it hit me hard. The reality, the truth, the message, behind this simple quote is just so immense.
I could relate to it on such a different level and I believe a lot of us can.
We live in a world where society has these certain expectations from us. Expectations on what we become, expectations on how we talk, expectations on how we behave. Expectations on literally everything.
These expectations… they stop us, flowers, from blooming to our potential and we end up living our lives thinking we don’t have the potential to bloom more.
You know what’s sad though? It’s when your own people tell you that there’s probably some flaw in you that’s stopping your growth and that you must change yourself.
I will give you my example. I am a girl…(I think we all already know where this story is going) … and of course, like the “typical parental concern”, even my parents are concerned about me going out alone. (yes, you guessed it right) But, say the concern was about something happening to me, it would be fine. Understandable. But the concern is about what everyone else would say IF something was to happen to ME.
You think I am making this up? HAHA you wish. Even I wish I was making this up but I am not and this, my friend, is suffocating. Just thinking about it makes me feel suffocated.
Now, just because the environment is not right for me, why is it that I am the one who is being “fixed” and not the environment itself? Why is it that instead of letting me go out and either ignoring what everyone says or stopping them from talking bad about me, I am the one who is being told to restrain? Is it that hard to fight the society?
I really want to know.
Mom, dad, I really want to understand your point of view. Trust me, I do.
But I fail to do so. I am sorry.
Could you please try to change my environment instead? I promise you will watch me bloom to my fullest.
Let me grow. Let the flowers bloom.